It is with sadness that I write for advice as it may seem petty however we would rather base our decisions upon fact than emotion and with fact we can make an informed decision on how to proceed or come to an agreement.
The issue has come about as my parter and I use child maintainence in completely different ways.
In my case I use my child maintenance payments from my ex husband to cover everything, all clothes, after school childacare, uniform, extra curricular activities etc etc. This works well and if my ex partner choses to buy anything additional for our daughter that is his choice but not a necessity. He has the basics at his home that he has purchased ie a few spare pants, socks, tooth brush however I pack a bag for her everytime she is in his care and he sends everything back.
My partners ex wife has put to us that she believes that when the children are with the NRP they should have their own clothing in that house (purchased by NRP), that extra curricular activities should be paid for on the days when they are in the care of the NRP and that after school childcare should also be paid for on days of care of the NRP. This also includes school dinners on those days and the list goes on.
We have the children for 5 nights in a fortnight. My partner pays maintenance of 20% net income for the 2 boys reduced by the number of nights we have them per csa guidlines.
Can anybody help with a defined list of what is or isn't covered by maintenance.
It would be great to have an official leaflet or website so that we can come to a mutual agreement
Thank you in anticipation of your help.