My partner had a little girl 9 years ago. Her mother has caused us nothing but expense and grief for the past 7 years. We have spent in excess of £5000 going through the courts to be able to see her for the mother to just turn around and say you are not seeing her anymore. Knowing for well that we could not afford to take her back to court, she then upped and moved and hasn't been seen since.
We have always paid the CSA payments never missed a single one. Even had to phone up CSA when the mother started to refuse to accept the cheque from us anymore so scared we rung them to be put on hold for an hour. Eventually they made arrangments for DD direct to them.
It seems she has now got back in touch with the CSA after 4 years of not seeing my partners daughter. She has 3 children in total is married and has spent most of her life living on the dole. I am absolutly petrified as to what this going to do to us, as hard working people.
We have a 3 year old daughter who we have to pay £700 a month to go to childcare just so we can work, knowing that when she starts school it will be worthwhile. I have heard that the CSA will take 40 % of his wage but this will leave us with nothing to survive on. It will also mean that although we are looking after his other daughter and the rest of the family we will not be able to support our own daughter. I am petrified because I know that the CSA penalises you for not seeing the non resident child, even though this wasn't through any fault of our own.
I am not sleeping properly at the moment as the thought has made me sick to my stomach. I do not understand how the CSA can justify taking money to leave another child in poverty. I am not shirking any responsibilities but I am scared for my family.
