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katie
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My husband and I split up 11 years ago. We both took the same amount of money from our house. I put mine down as a deposit and built a home whilst he decided to live in rented.
Over the last 11 years I have worked hard building a business and taking care of our daughter. I paid for child care to enable me to go to work and never asked him for a penny.
Today, I have built a good home and enjoy a good salary. He continues to live in a rented flat and works but does not have such a good income.
Two years ago she decided to go to live with him. She is 18,
Despite the fact that over the last 2 years I have paid my way in terms of holidays, clothes, outings, healthcare etc has decided to take me to the CSA.
I have said I am happy to pay my way in supporting her and thought I had been. What does it cost to feed a teenager? I have said I would pay direct to her but he is insistent that I should pay him. I have asked how much he wants but he says he wants csa to decide..ie he wants a percentage of my salary.
I believe that he is using our daughter to fleece me for money. He never paid me a penny for 9 years (yes more fool me) but it does not seem right that he should be able to demand money form me now as it was me who always took care of the childcare AND worked AND build a business.
I have said if he cannot afford ot keep her then he should send her back to me. I want her back and miss her terribly! I believe he has been instrumental in keeping us apart.
I don’t know which way to turn and could do with some advice.
Hi Katie, if your daughter is 18 then you've nothing to worry about. Child maintenance payments stop at 18.
He sounds like he's just trying to fleece you out of money, and yes he should have been paying you all of the years you took care of her. The CSA wouldn't care about that though. They'd expect you to pay regardless, except that she's 18, so you're in the clear!
He'll be upset when he finds that out.
katie
Member
I UNDERSTAND I have toi pay to the september following her 19th birthday???
it is so unclear what is fact and what is not...
for example...do they take ionto account my mortgage payments? do they count savings?
do i have any right of appeal at all?
can I pay anything dirtcet to child? are there any payments to the child deducted?
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