CSA advice forum

CSA advice forum » CSA Complaints

1. TickTock
   Member
   
   

   I split from my ex wife 3 years ago after she had an afair, she took everything we owned and left me with all of our bills to pay. 3 Weeks after our split she moved to the other end of the country, taking our son with her.

   I called the CSA to arrange payments but she refused them, so I paid her directly instead. It's taken me 3 years to come to terms with not seeing my son often, having to re-build me life and get back on track. Unfortunatly, she now wants to go through the CSA and they want me to pay her £430 a month!!!!! (which includes back dating any bonuses I had earnt) and I would only get back £16 a month for travel expenses and hotel costs to see my son.

   There should be a cap on the amount paid for a child. I feel like I've been complete robbed and insulted. The government drag single fathers through the mudd without any regard for our situation or the reasons we became single. Even the people who work at the CSA agree this is a horrific system.

   Posted 6 months ago #

2. snappersuk
   Member
   
   

   Yes i agree with you TickTock. The government say The amount that a child needs to live on will be: £67.50 pw. This is what a lone parent gets from the government per child PW.
   so why do i and many other farther's pay double or triple that amount, i pay £550 PCM for my son who lives with PWC. plus i have a new born with my wife of 5 years. The CSA have put me in poverty to put my child and ex into a life of luxury the system is wrong im all for paying my way hes my son and i have that duty of care. But now i cant even afford to see him.
   I think this amount should be the maximum then lower if you are not earning enough for you to live on.
   And then farthers who are a bit more well off shall we say voluntarily pay more if they so wish to. Not be forced to pay more the CSA system needs a full overhaul it is a shambles.

   Posted 6 months ago #

3. sheepdog
   Member
   
   

   I agree with both of you - the system simply STINKS. David Cameron is a self centred, useless figure of a man that will only go after any vote that is likely to keep him and the other corrupt members of the government in power. The whole system of child support, maintenance etc is on it's knees.

   Fathers deserve the right to see their children, it should be an easy and natural option for every child to see their dad, but for some reason the law tends to come down on the side of the mother. I agree that mothers are probably a more stable person for children to be with in general - mainly because their dads are either busy at work, trying to put food on the table or simply trying to get used to not seeing their kids every day.

   There will never be a maximum amount of support for a child, ever. This is because some people are earning so much money that the CSA and ex wives and partners can use them as an example, my ex constantly tells the kids how much somebody she 'lunches' with gets from their ex just to make it more than I can give. The rules are totally one sided.

   All I can say is - keep your chin up, don't let your guard down, never let them get you down and never, never let yourself drop to their level. Ever. You'r kids will come round one day.

   Once again, sorry to rant, but it makes my blood boil to see dads in this position. I wish I was in charge - I'd soon straighten things out!

   Posted 6 months ago #

4. SarahField
   Member
   
   

   https://www.facebook.com/groups/protectctc/

   Posted 6 months ago #

5. TickTock
   Member
   
   

   Thanks for the replies guys, it's good (well, not good) to see I'm not the only one in this situation. I've put together a facebook group for this so feel free to join and add your comments:

   https://www.facebook.com/groups/238685102863004/

   Thanks

   Posted 6 months ago #

6. red29scarlet
   Member
   
   

   Hi Guys
   What about the Father who walked out when his Son was 6 months old, 12 years ago. Who, up until his new wife had a baby, was seeing his 12 year old every week overnight. Yet, when new wife has baby, there was always some excuse for not having Son - i have NEVER stopped Father from seeing Son and even went to a Solicitor to get her to send letter to the Father explaining this and he replied to his Son 'i can't afford to see you any more cause i am paying your Mum to much money' (he pays £129 a month). What type of 'Father' (and YES,i do use that term VERY loosely) does that to their child?

   Posted 5 months ago #

RSS feed for this topic

Reply

You must log in to post.