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1. csteel10
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   I've been paying my ex £200 a month over the last 3 and a half years, I never went through the CSA. Everything has been fine untill latley we've had a disagreement and I researched how much I should have been paying. Using the calculator on the CSA website I've estimated I've overpaid her in the region of £4,700. All my payments have been through standing order. I'm now wanting to drop her payments in line with the CSA guidlines (£135) am I within my rights to do this? I have my son 3 nights one week and 4 the next so efffectivley he sleeps at my house half the time. I'm unsure as to what my rights are, if push cam to shove would she be have to pay me back the overpayments? Can she reduce the time I have with my son to increase her payment as we have no formal custody agreement in place?

   Your help and advice would be very much appreciated.

   Thanks.

   Posted 8 months ago #

2. helen
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   think about how much the mother of your child pays each week from electric, roof over head,food, clothes,crockery, upkeep of house which provides the roof over your childs head then try to work out how far your £50 a week really goes. I wish my childs father was as caring as you have shown to have been contributing each week. This is an ongoing expense constantly replacing things as they break down and after school expenses and of course school expenses too from uniform and food to school trips and treats......just ask yoourself if you really want this money back - its not for your ex but for your child to have a better atandard of life......hope this helps

   Posted 8 months ago #

3. FedUp
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   I think Helens comment is a touch patronising.

   csteel10 has custody of the son for 3 nights one week and four nights the next so it sounds like both parents are sharing custody. So i'm guessing that csteel10 understands the cost of raising a child, csteel10 is also aware of the costs of electric, roof over head, food etc.

   Also, this child must not survive on £50 pound a week alone, csteel10's ex probably claims family allowance for the child, (how much is that these days per week??? £15-£20 per week at least) and then i'm assuming that csteel10's ex also contributes financually towards the upkeep of the son. My calculations work out that this child does not suffer a lesser standard of life at all.

   My only worry is, is that if csteel10 rocks the boat, the CSA will become involved and access to the son will be reduced to increase CSA as often seems the case fron reading other posts.

   csteel10, it may be worth every penny of your £50 per week to keep the status quo.

   Good luck

   Posted 8 months ago #

4. helen
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   the post was not meant to be patronising but still think this amount is a realistic amount to contribute towards any child as clothes etc are not cheap to replace or the upkeep of any house. Not sure how u can include family allowance which is £20 per week. this amount is paid to every 1st child in the country so if the couple where together raising the child it they would still be entitled. also even if the father was on a much larger wage she would still get this amount. there are so many costs involved in raising a child that a father should realise

   i was only praising the parent for fiving what he could afford and not begrudging the amount he has already paid. at least he could hold his head up high and say he contributed towards his childs upkeep. your ex is a very lucky lady to have someone who cares

   Posted 8 months ago #

5. mgreen
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   As much as I am certain you meant your comments in a good light, how is it morally correct that he pays twice. He has to pay for his own place,ha has the same bills as the resident parent ie.. Mum, due to him having his child 7/14 days.
   I do however agree, that if he does go to the CSA he is asking for trouble not only for himself and his ex but far more importantly his child. The CSA treat PWC and NRP's with contempt and I suggest you do everything in your power to avoid them. I personally would happy to see my children 7 days out of 14 but I will never be afforded that luxury and although in theory and reality you are overpaying ( as in my opinion you should pay half each, 7 nights each as well as provide clothes etc... that doesn't warrant paying £200 per month each unless they are Armani Kids) I would happily swap my situation for yours and pay £200 per month.

   Posted 8 months ago #

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