I split with my ex nearly 10yrs ago, I had 10yrs of hell with my ex, and I left after he left his hand print on my son who was 6 at the time.
I did get a couple of payments for about a month and not had anything since. I have years of hell with the CSA, nobody can get money out of my ex; he continues to work cash in hand so they can’t chase him.(he’s not always worked cash in hand) He has had bailiffs, enforcements and still no payments. My case gets passed from pillar to post; nobody EVER phones or writes to me with updates. It’s always me calling them only to be told my case has been passed on somewhere else. I have made numerous complaints.
I am banging my head against a brick wall. My ex has only just come into my kid’s lives after ignoring them for 5yrs, no birthday card, Christmas cards, not even a phone call or text.
Now my issue is that my kids have started seeing him again, he tells them he can’t see them sometimes as he is WORKING! He works somewhere in Manchester, he flashes cash in front of them but will not even give them the bus fare home. My kids have asked him for money for clothes, school uniforms etc... But he tells them he has none and if I want money then I can bog off!! After me he got involved with another woman and had 2 kids with her he sees these kids plus a kid to another bloke, every week, he gets the bus picks them up (banned from driving) obviously pays out on them to what my kids have seen.
Now I don’t have anything to do with my ex, don’t know where he lives or works but the CSA want ME to go and find out where he is working, I was even told to contact the Tax Office! For information as to where he is working!! As if they are going to tell me that. Should the CSA not be doing all that? Why can’t they sit outside his door and follow him? They know where he lives. I spoken to them today only to be told “we will send him out another letter” they have been doing this since I last spoken to them in May and he hasn’t replied to any.
So what now? What can I do? I am so stressed with the CSA, I have been to blows with them, I am recovering from Kidney Cancer and just sick of the stress. I just want what my kids are entitled to. Why should he keep getting away with it? Advice please