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1. Markyg250
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   Hi there, I've just been bombarded at work by the gods!!!! Basically, divorced a few years back, got screwed financially by my ex who never paid bills and hid all post so I knew nothing. I relocated with my job 2 years ago and atempted to have them the last weekend of the month. Eldest son hates me and is a mummy'sb boy. I havent been able to see my kids for the last six months because she poisioned there minds. Ive since got married and actually atempting to buy a house. God knows what we do now. How do I live, apparently she gets 25% of my wages for doing nothing except sitting on her fat @@@ & morals courtesy of the tax payers, smoking 40 fags a day, and getting housing benefits etc etc etc. It works out she will get more money than me now???? I'm not disputing there my kids and I know I have to pay for them, how do I plough through all this now without her still ruining my life all over again, Ive only just finished paying off the divorce & access case let alone all the debts she left me with. I've been told that my wifes wages arent touched but I really dont believe that. I miss my 3 kids, but my daughter the most. Im so scared that I'm just about to loose all that I've worked for. Ive tried giving her cash a long time ago, but wouldnt sign for iy, then she agreed to sign for it and promptly stole the receipt book when my back was turned. The list goes on and on and on about all the hurt and lies she told 'on oath' she even smashed up the mirror on my car and I ended up with the injunction !!!!!!!!!!!!!
   Any tips or suggestions please????????
   Mark

   Posted 1 year ago #

2. bat_fastard
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   I feel your pain. my Littlern was being handed over in clothes that barely fit him, and conveniently her brand new apartment purchase only went through once the CSA caught up with me and deducted £1200 in two consecutive wage checks after changing jobs.

   I offered to pay for all his clothes and afterschool activities which she claims costs her alot (which i later found out to be BS as the school runs a government funded "parents back to work" scheme) and basically give her whatever she wanted (within reason) if she provided receipts as an alternative to CSA. she refused and preferred to keep the CSA taking £280 per month for our only child.

   what man in the world would feel "comfortable" paying their maintenance when they've got pretty good reasons to believe it's not being spent on them!?! I for one would prefer to have a more "active" role in support.

   it's a pity the CSA dont force the PWC's to provide receipts and pay them in arrears out of a "budget" they get or even like a savings account type thing... so they can splash out every so often by "saving up". I've heard no end of young girls bragging or talking about getting up the duff by some rich man so they can get CSA for 19 years, and have met numerous women with children of different men, never worked a day in their lives and live a life of luxury while the kids are dressed in rags.

   now i've been made redundant and the CSA want to take £5 pw from my Employment Support Allowance as i'm now signed off (clinically depressed and quite likely soon to be the 62nd father claimed by the CSA if things carry on). quite how i'll manage to survive when i'm £40 a week short due to the "revised" housing benefit rules. they believe i should be living in a studio flat despite having shared custody (well i should have anyway... another story) of my son, so dont feel they should give me the going rate for my 2 bedroomed place with a nice garden for littlern to play.

   I've not got any advice but i'd be interested to see what gets said said.

   i've a feeling though that ICE might be mentioned which isn't really of any immediate help :(

   Posted 1 year ago #

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