Not posted for a while so just some food for thought really. Earlier this year i challenged the csa over alledged arrears and to cut a long story short i won. I got a letter of apology and compensation from them. Natrually i was jubilant. My ex, meanwhile, thought she was in line for a £1400 payout was a bit upset she was receiving nothing.
Things have never gone well between us i.e i have never had regular access, messed around bad mouthed etc etc.
I was due to see my kids 2 weeks ago when a mutual friend produced some pictures of comments they had placed about me on a social networking site.
Quite disturbing to read go see your father and get what you can out of him.
My ex had told them she was getting no money from me. What she should have said was she wasn't getting the arrears the csa had fabricated and not just no money!!!
She is world class at giving the edited highlights.
The comments made are extremely hurtful and i am struggling to come to terms with some of it. I was due to have them for christmas but now they won't come.
I have called them and asked them why they would say what they have only to get the usual "don't know, not sure" answers.
Before anyone asks i have never missed a payment and do a 200 mile round trip to collect them.
Currently i'm trying to accept my kids don't like me and with hindsight i wonder if i should have just paid the dam money and kept some sort of relationship with my kids?
Even if they do see me as a cash cow.