Ex lives with his mum and deals drugs
February 15, 2012
I am currently pregnant with my first child, I will be a single mum, I am 18 but will be nearly 19 once child is born. The father has turned his back on me and the child but I could do the financial help. He lives with his mum still and already has one child that he sees but doesn’t live with or pay for. He recently lost his job due to having a criminal conviction of drug dealing, so I am happy he doesnt want to be near my child.
He claims income support and still deals drugs so is more than capable of paying towards my child. I have applied for support now so it can hopefully be sorted by the time my baby is born.
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Let me get this straight. Your ex lives with his mum, is unemployed, a convicted drug dealer and he’s just fathered his second child, the first child he doesn’t support?
He sounds like the lowest of low life scum. Why did you have anything to do with this piece of filth?
Yes you can claim CSA from him, but as he’s unemployed it will be the standard £5 from his benefits (so the taxpayers will effectively be funding you, your child and your lowlife ex).
Sadly money earned from dealing drugs isn’t covered by HMRC, so you can’t claim CSA for that… obviously. You should have nothing more to do with this scum, don’t bother going to the CSA because the £5 per week (which you probably won’t get anyway) isn’t going to be worth your hassle. Plus, when he is inevitably locked up for generally being a lowlife scum, he won’t have to pay you anything as even the CSA doesn’t chase prisoners for money.
Finally, get some self-respect and don’t get involved with utter gutter snakes like your ex.
Quote Bianca: I have applied for support now…
You will need to make an application once your baby is born.
As has already been stated, as your ex claims benefits you would be awarded £5 pw from his benefits.
chall ~ afairercsaforall
Firstly ‘Micheal’ I dont appreciate what you have said, you have absolutely no right to tell anyone to get some self respect you do not no me. Your a suppose to answer these kind of things professionally but that has made you just look like an immature twat. So quite frankly you can fuck yourself with your comments and go learn how to speak to people you dont even no with some form of respect before passing un needed comments. I no hes a waste of space but was I asking for your opinion on that? No i wasn’t, so stop trying to make yourself look like a big man who can slag people off he doesnt even no, where as in reality you wouldnt last a second if you tried.
What a charming young lady you are. My mistake, you are clearly suited to the father of your child.
well done michael,she obviously wanted some advice or she wouldnt have wrote on this website,she sound like one of them skanks that you see on the jeremy kyle show!and a typical woman that likes to blacken the mans name,i bet he doesnt do drugs!he lives with his mum,whats wrong with that!some men are forced to by the csa!!you have no idea bianca!!i bet you thought your now ex was a meal ticket too!!
This is a young pregnant girl who has asked for help and now two grown men are ganging up on her, that isn’t right you both need to sort yourselves out. The poor girl is right, you shouldn’t be making comments on her life, she asked a question which neither of you have answered.
Micheal I do see you were trying to help but Tony what right do you have to call any one a ‘skank’. She is clearly the complete opposite of what you find on Jeremy Kyle, not that this is relevant, but her spelling, grammar and punctuation shows that she is clearly an educated girl, unlike yourself with no use of even capital letters which is the most basic of knowledge! You have no right to say that to or about anyone or to say that she is lying.
It’s crazy! but I agree with Michael.
This young girl is indicattive of how women these days think using the CSA like a BANK. I mean she got involved with this drug dealer and no doubt was happy to party all night with him and his proceeds. Now when shit hits the fan she wants YOU and I the tax payer to fund her lifestyle of what!! this make me mad..
You see this is why the current system of CSA and benefits is so wrong.
I feel like I should stick up for myself, this situation is actually really upsetting me and playing on my mind.
I didnt no he was a drug dealer when we were together, it is the reason we broke up. Didnt do all night partys, I am a student, I mainly study. The pregnancy was an accident as we used condoms, obviously one split, but we were never unsafe. I am not using this as a bank as I also work myself and earn a honest living, I just cannot afford a baby and my home + bills alone, I am also a tax payer like yourself. I dont like it how you are all judging me.
The father was violent to me when I refused to get an abortion and nearly killed our baby, I had a lucky escape, the police and social services are also involved. I didnt want to go too much into detail but since everyone is being so horrible to me I feel I need to. All I asked was a simple question and this has turned into an absolute nightmare.
Bianca, you didn’t actually ask a question. You said your ex was a drug dealer, was unemployed and claims benfit and lives with his mum. You said you had made a claim and hoped it would be sorted by the time your baby was born. There was no question in there.
I told you that you’d get £5 per week as he’s on benefits, and the fact that he deals drugs doesn’t mean you’ll get any more (whether he has the money to pay you or not). Chall also made the same point.
Now you know how much you’ll get if you go to the CSA once your child is born. You have to decide whether £5 per week is worth the 18+ years of hassle, abuse and headaches you’ll get from your ex and from the CSA. I’m sure anyone who has been in your position and done it will tell you it’s not. Even if he pays every week, as he should, you would get a grand total of £4,680 over the course of 18 years.
hannah and bianca are complete skumbags in my opinion,who only use their kids as a cash machine!run the man down and blacken his name,go out everyweekend and get wasted,even though i bet the father are desperate to see their kids,but the mother stil goes round saying….hes a waste of space!he doesnt want to do with his own child!….about time the goverment changed things in favour of the fathers!as some of us mis our childeren dearly and get labeled as scum!!!not fair!!!we love our kids,women just want the money!!!!!!!!!!!!
I believe the goverment should do somethinkg about benefits and the C.S.A because it seems the hard working tax payers are punished.
I pay C.S.A for my kids which I have no problems with its when you have no control over that money and you see your children suffering because the money is not being spent on them.
bianca, somehow get a picture to my email address, il tell you if you are a skank!!! lol
Jeremy Kyle will sort this one out!
I cannot believe what i have just read on here to this girl. I am 23 with a 2yr old child whos father is exactly the same as what this poor girl has just mentioned although my ex has regular access to our child but has not paid for so much as a pack of baby wipes for her. Before i met this man i had a full time job working nights in full time education and caring for my elderly grandad and within a yr of being with this man i lost everything. I was mentally and physically abused by this individual for 3yrs until i had my daughter and realised i did not want my daughter growing up in that environment. I am currently living of benefits and have been since i gave birth and this is not because i choose to its because i have to. I still get abuse from my childs father and he makes my life hell on a daily basis and i cannot believe you people are giving this poor girl abuse. No man will ever realise how hard it is to raise a child on their own especially with a man like that being the father! Yeah some woman can be just as bad but it takes a girl years to recover from the abuse men are capable of so until you so called MEN are in this situation i think you need to show some respect for young mothers because not all of them are like these girls you see on jeremy kyle and in relation to that this programme is shown during the day so by the sounds of it you dont have a job yourselves so who are you to call this girl??? Ill tell you who NOBODY! Bianca i dont know you but i know exactly what you are going through all i can say is that if this man wants to see his child then you have no right to stop him, your child will realise in years to come that her dad is a lowlife and hopefully will one day realise she/he wants nothing to do with him! I wouldent bother getting money from him because he can use that measely £5 a week against you in the future, if he wants to buy your child anything then let him but tell him to keep that stuff at his house then he has nothing against you and cannot hold the fact he bought 1 pack of nappys 2wks ago against you either! Ignore what these pathetic men are saying and just carry on as normal, in the last six months my life has changed drastically and i have never been happier, it will be hard at first but sooner or later you will be able to get over this man and move on with your life and this advice is coming from someone who has experienced what your life has been like before, keep your chin up and when your child is born you will realise how lucky you are to of got out of that situation when you did and believe me everything you went through will be worth it once you see your child for the first time because nothing will ever love you more!
All the best to you xx
bla bla bla bla,same old same old!!storys like this of women like you wil always ruin a mans life!!why have kids in the first place if you knew what your man was??!!bet you werent even married!!just wanted a kid cos the time was right for YOU!!then say the same old story for the rest of your life!!move on for christsake!!us men dont get to say when we want to be a father because women like you just go ahead with it!!very sly!!!go and find a job!!!!