Ex is not being fair – am I going to end up paying?

January 17, 2014

My ex girlfriend was on the pill while we was together, and as far as I knew she was on it all the time we was together, but when we broke up she text me and said that she was pregnant, and that she hadn’t took her pill, all through the relationship I told her that I didn’t want a child as I am too young. once she thought she was pregnant when we was together (it turned out she wasn’t) but she told me that she would abort it as she knows how much I do not want a kid.

I met her after we broke up and she told me that she wasn’t going through CSA as I want nothing to do with it, and I have a text saying the same thing. she knew that I wanted her to abort the baby when she told me, and she wants to keep it so because I have no say she wants to keep it. but she has not flipped out and said that she is going through CSA to get money off of me out of spite. I am not going to be on the birth certificate, even though she has only asked me to come down when she is in labour, just so I can go on the birth certificate.

As it is going right now I am going to take her to court. because I believe that I should not have to pay her when she has said to me that she isn’t going to go through the court. she has always known that I do not want a kid or anything to do with this one if she has it but she is still trying to force it upon me. I have had texts all threating me about CSA saying shje is going to do it and then texts saying she promise she wont.

I have a fried who she is going to tell everything to and he will stand up for me in court.
I don’t earn a lot of money at all, as I am only 18 and an apprentice I earn less money that practically everyone but she is still doing this to me.

I don’t think what she is doing is fair and I want to know if it goes to court am I just going to end up paying anyway?

Comments

  • Bill says:

    If it is your child come to a private arrangement otherwise the mother will have to apply to the CSA for maintenance and they will pursue you.
    Going to court will cost more than paying maintenance which you will end up paying anyway.

  • author of this artical says:

    thanks you caz, you understand me and what is going on, I didn’t choose this to happen and I have made it very very clear everytime anything about a kid came up I told her that I was too young and didn’t want one yet.
    1.im not thinking about my ego im thinking I don’t want to be a dad
    2.i wanted to break up with her when she mustn’t of taken her pill, so I was trying not to go near her but she was practically forcing me to sleep with her saying “I was ignoring her” and “I must not want her”
    3.im 18 I was 17 when I was with her. DO YOU REALLY THINK THATS THE RIGHT AGE TO HAVE A KID!!! its not.
    4.becky, learn English I cant understand a word that says.
    5.its not the right time for her either as she has just stared a job, and because of this I know that she will have to leave and end up living on benefits.

    I just have a follow up question for my article, if I say when it comes I want it half the time and want to be involved in the childs life half of the time. can I recive half of the childs benefits as I know that if they only gave her half she wouldn’t be able to survive.

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