Does my ex still have to pay the arrears?

August 14, 2013

hi there i applied for csa in 2002, i split with the 2 boys dad and applied, my boys are now 21 and 18. my 18 year went to college when he left school at 16 and was to go back in sept but didnt get a place,

As i applied in 2002 i was on the old csa scheme then because i had another child(different dads) in 2006 and claimed csa for him they put me on the new scheme which i started to receive child support for with no problem, for the last four months i have starting receiving child support for my eldest two after so many years, so i decided that my ex hadnt paid for 21 years and was getting away with a measly 43 pound a month that i would dispute the case,

i got a letter saying my ex has to pay £28 a week maintenance and £51 arrears as hes never paid me other than the last few months, he does have a good job and his wife earns 150000+ a year, he asked me to sort it out between us and i said ok so he wanted to put money in the boys account for two years but i wasnt happy with that because i know he wouldnt give them anything, so thats why i went through the csa.

My son isnt going back to college and my ex owes me a small fortune in arrears, does anyone know if he still has to pay me the arrears or do i get nothing, any help on this would be greatly appreciated,, thank you xx

Comments

  • sarah Briers says:

    Good for him 🙂 its got nothing to do with you what his wife earn s. Wish we could help my husbands kidsbut thanks to being screwed by csa we can’t even buy them something for their birthday

  • Sally says:

    Hi Christine 751 – quick question… what does his wifes earnings have to do with anything?!? It YOU and YOUR EX only that should pay for your son?!? My partners ex expected money from my salary too and it’s so wrong!!! Why would you even expect another woman to pay money for your children?!?

    To answer your question though, it is my understanding that he will still have to pay the arrears.. it is shocking though that you and other PWC’s have this kind of control over peoples lives… you ‘weren’t happy that your ex wanted to put money into an account for your son… is that because you wanted the money to spend just now?? if you managed for 21 years, don’t you think it is great that your son will have money of his own when reaches 21??

    I personally think you are putting YOUR needs and feelings before your child and that is just proof that the CSA system is all wrong… 🙁

  • christine says:

    just to defend myself her, firstly his wifes earnings have nothing to do with me and thats not why i said it, i said it because csa was taking her wages into account as i was on the old scheme and they do that, i personally do give a second thought to her wages, secondly we have children together that i think he should be paying for i didnt have them on my own and for me not agreeing to give the kids the money, i would have been happy as i told him if he pays the kids a lump sum, he wanted to pay it over a long time in small amounts over a few years, he does have the money to pay in a lump sum but he wanted to do it through a mutual agreement, so the csa werent involved, my boys wouldnt have got a penny, he has promised so many things for their birthdays/christmasesetc and even let me down with their bikes one year on christmas eve so actually maybe you should ask the full story before anyone judges its nothing about greed, ive had 3 £10 payments for my sons aged 21 and 18 so whats fair there!!

  • anon says:

    morally he should not pay anything to what in the animal kingdom would be recognised as a tapeworm.

  • christine says:

    To Anon
    Why shouldnt he pay anything to his children, i take it you dont pay towards yours, if hes able to bring children into this world and i assure you they were all planed, why shouldnt he have to pay in their upbringing…

  • christine says:

    You are very right Mandy in what you are saying, some people think bringing kids up and affording everything they need is a doddle but we know its not and to Faye i say he owes me it because its me the money gets paid too, obviously i spend it on my children, i do my best for them on whatever i earn as well as whatever their dad decides to pay which isnt very often, i am the one who has did without quite a few times for my children and always put them first, but at the end of the day some people think mothers are tapeworms just trying to bleed the fathers dry and they are so wrong, i work 2 jobs to provide for my children and wish i had more time to spend with them growing up but as i got no help until recently from their dad, i had no choice as i needed to clothe, feed and support my children so yes i think as csa has actually sorted my case then the father should give me some sort of support, it will help my boys a little especially as the youngest has just started driving x

  • Lisa says:

    In some cases this is not entirley correct though is it, some mums sit on benefits all there lives, still expect CSA payments, so what exactly are they contributing to their children?? They are not, the tax payer is, these woman are a disgrace

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