Do I have to pay CSA for a one night stand?
November 28, 2009
Some 2 years ago I had a very druken 1 night stand with a girl I had never met before, I woke up in the morning and she and my wallet was missing! I kicked myself for days about this and couldnt beleive I had been robbed by a girl that seemed to be nice (maybe a bit rough).
18 MONTHS later after completely forgetting about this druken mistake the csa contacted me at work to say I was a father and would have to pay for a child I knew nothing about!
I have taken the DNA test and the child is mine, I have no clue who the mother is apart from the name on the form they sent me. This girl must have been planning to get pregnent and took my wallet as a way of tracking me if she feel pregnent, how can this be allowed to happen? Why should I pay for a child that has been made simply so the mother can have a life on benefits?
I have just had to tell the women I am in a relationship with and it has broken her heart as we have just found out she has cancer……………
The CSA do not care that I am now struggling to pay our bills on my own and are demanding I pay £240 per month. I feel like ending my life but need to try and be strong for my partner.
Does anyone have a way out for me, I’m desprate………….
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Hi,
Almost exactly the same thing happened to me many years ago. It is important not to lose faith. The CSA was a bad idea open to abuse by this kind of woman.
Give me a shout to find out how to live a normal happy life without worrying about her and the CSA.
Cheers
Ray
sorry but you have to
We are trying to get csa for our daughter but we dont have the fathers date of birth and we believe he has left the country can we still claim with out date of birth and once he returns?
When you say we and our, I am assuming you now have a new partner? Why not leave the poor guy alone.
Mr Brettell needs to face up to his responsibilities. He created a new life that night and that child is the injured party not Mr Brettell. It’s a basic human right to expect to know who fathered you regardless of the situation. Mr Brettell’s account of the situation is based on absolute lies so everyone can feel sorry for him. He knew about his son’s existance a whole year before the CSA caught up with him but he didn’t want to know as it would have disrupted his life too much. The mother however, soldiered on, grauated from university and, contrary to “living a life on benefits”, works full time bringing up the child on her own. If Mr Brettell had been more reasonable when he first was told about the child then the mother would never have contacted the CSA. This was NEVER NEVER about money – it was a way of getting Mr Brettell to wake up and act responsibly and ethically. It backfired obviously as he left the country within months of being contacted by the CSA and changed his name – what a coward.
I find it strange this lady apparently stole your wallet but no mention of going to the Police?
Yes Joanna, how strange Mr Brettell (now Weeks or maybe Brettell again!!) didn’t ring the police. That’s because he is an absolute lier. This lady and Mr Brettell corresponded by text the following day and she has the records to prove this. He actually went on holiday that day so it leaves me wondering how he did that without his wallet!!!! Men such as this have no respect whatsoever for women or the children they create. What sort of person can ignore the existance of a new life they were responsible for, regardless of the circumstances. Mr Brettell was very difficult to trace but he was made aware of his son’s existance as soon as possible and a whole year before the CSA caught up with him. He was described as one “friend” as the biggest bullshiter on the planet. The rather naive and unstreetwise young lady was just another triumph for this man who will always be regarded as the scum of the earth by everyone who knows the real truth about what happened on that unfortunate evening. The little boy he created is however very beautiful, very clever and loved with a passion inspite of his father.