How can I make a backdated claim against my ex?

March 9, 2017

My youngest daughters father whom is Portuguese hasn’t seen her since she was 18 months old she’s now 7 nearly 8 and we had to flee domestically abuse from him in 2011 when she was 18 months old. Iv never claimed csa and in 2012 he moved back to Portugal. I want to know how I can claim for my daughter and if possible claim back dated pay ???

I’ve made no progress with the CSA since the day I put in a claim

March 8, 2017

Put in a claim to the csa in 2015 still no further forward I told them his address workplace and his new address as he moved when he build up his rent cause he goes as self-employed there not much they can 2 but he’s been in same company for 6 years none stop but I was not bothered about the money as long as he sees the kids once week as my eldest was ill thankfully hes getting better csa just say anything over the phone I asked for them reply in letter and they cant do that I said well u cant do very much as were still no further forward while hes planning his wedding and holidays for his girlfriends kids you sitting behind computer drinking coffee I’ve have made more calls 2 csa than I have ever heard from them you think your getting some ware they feed you more bullshit I told them iam done cant be bothered about o this order from courts and this I well I have not had that in letter so is it happening or not end of the day they tell you anything just 2 get u off a phone.

I’m ordered to pay for my child who I am not allowed access to

March 7, 2017

I am the mother of one beautiful little girl. She will be 10 in June 2017. My ex husband has full custody of her and he lives in AZ I live in Michigan. I first moved here to be with my parents and to get a stable life so I could provide for her, in January 2015. I am ordered to pay $280/month in child support but the ex will not let me see or talk to her since January 2015. He trusts telling me she wants nothing to do with me but he won’t let her tell me that if it’s true and his wife, my ex best friend, isn’t making it any better. What should I do? Please help me and send advice and/or resources.

Problem is not with my ex, but with his employers!

March 6, 2017

I am frustrated and stressful (to say the list) with the kind of service that I am receiving from CMS. This started about over 1 year ago when I started telling my case worker and anyone that cares to listen that my EX husband employer judiciously deduct child maintenance from the wages of my EX and keep it to themselves without remitting it to CMS as the law demands. You will agree with me that it is against the law for an employer to do so and there are legal procedures to follow to prevent them from doing so.

CMS has blatantly refused to follow those procedures to force the employer to remit the money to them. CMS has many powers at their disposal to use to get this money- like Deduction order, obtaining court order, paying the employers a visit I have been chasing this payments since last over 1 year, They have never complied with the law, the payments comes whenever they like and however they like it, they have never complied because they know that CMS cannot do anything apart from writing letters to them. The last payment I received was on 09/09/2016 and that was for August payment and the arears I am being owned is 2498.68. I have 3 children to bring up, 2 in colleges, when they need food/clothes or going on school trips, I can’t tell them that they cannot go because CMS doesn’t want to enforce the law and force employer to remit the money he has already taken from their daddy’s wages.

Last January I called and was told that the employer said that they have made 3 months payments into arears recovery account that CMS is trying to trace the account. After 1months and still counting, CMS is still waiting for employer to tell them the account number they paid the money into or they are still tracing it. And I ask myself who gave the employer the account number in the first instance or do they just pay the money into any account they like? How long does it take to trace a payment or get the account number? I am actually convinced that CMS does nothing because if they do, tracing a payment doesn’t take one month to do. Is quite frustrating and devastating!!!!!!!!!.

Please all your call are recorded for this kind of issues, trace all my calls and know how many times I have called since last 2 years and complained without anything being done. To make the matter worst, when I call somebody will tell me that they can’t get into my case that my case worker will call me back, nobody bothers to call be to update me, this has happened several times – is this what CMS stand for. I have asked several times to speak to employer’s team or legal team maybe to get reasonable information and I have been told that they are unreachable.

Why this case is so unbelievable is that is not that my EX is refusing to pay but that the employers take the money and not remit it, they are not supposed to do that, is against the law, the law is there for a purpose Please I need somebody, s help here, let CMS enforce the law, let them take the employer to court, let them fine the employer, the law has stipulated so many procedures to follow and you cannot tell me that the law says that CMS should wait for 5 months before taking the employers to court because that’s how long I have waited.

CSA demanding funds from 1995 even though ex-wife confirmed private arrangement

March 5, 2017

I have just received a demand for £30,000 and a request for detail on finances covering the period 1995-1999. I have never entered into an arrangement with the CSA but did receive a demand from them maybe 16 or 17 years ago which was resolved by my ex-wife confirming that we had a private maintenance arrangement and I was paying her funds in excess of the CSA recommended amount to her directly on a monthly basis. I am shocked and mystified as to why this would surface now after all these years. I now live in Australia and have a new family. My older kids are 26, 28 and 30 this year!! I don’t know what to do as I don’t have any of the documentation from this period – I’m fearful that if I get in touch with them that they will step up proceedings to pursue these funds which are simply not due. Can anyone offer any advice?

Ex sends me death threats but I fear the law will turn on me

March 4, 2017

On behalf of all the men out there going through this I want to say that from my experience the system and laws concerning parenting are completely SEXIST and lack EQUALITY for men as parents. My ex doesn’t allow me to see my son, and in the few moments that she hasn’t blocked contact with me I was always trying very hard to make effort to see my son and be there for him.

The only reason I stopped trying to see him which was about 10 months ago, at which time I had also not seen him for at least 6 months was because my ex was sending me death threats and harassing me. Up until recently I was getting back in control of my life, in my 2nd year of university, and I receive messages from my friends saying that my ex is sending them hateful messages about me on facebook to everyone.

So now I’m thinking enough is enough, after the death threats and now this next level harassment I’m thinking to actually take this to the police. But because of the way the law works against men as parents I’m concerned that I could be brought up on some sort of child maintenance charges. All I know is for how disrespectfully she’s treated me and threatening me there’s absolutely no way that I’d pay her a penny. I’d sooner go to jail then send her money that’s how it feels for me. I’d happily help look after my son and provide help to support him financially but now being around my ex is out of the question because I fear she’s mentally unstable with the death threats and all. I’d like to know how the law really works, how much trouble either my ex or myself can get in with the current situation. Also I live in the UK so I don’t know if the law is much different to the U.S.

It’s just so frustrating from a dad’s perspective to not only have your child taken away from you but to know he’s being raised to most likely hate you and that you are being told pay her money even if you can’t see him. I think this system is very disrespectful to men and I really hope they make some drastic changes soon enough so future fathers don’t have to go through the hell that I’m going through.

Ex lied to CMS so all of a sudden I owe thousands in arrears

March 3, 2017

Over the last 10 years odd ,my ex used the csa like a weapon on me if she wasn’t happy & totally in control ,I had many letters & calls from csa ,the 2 kids are now 28 & 26 ? I never ever paid to the csa tho,we had our own agreement all the time.In sep 2015 I got a letter out the blue from cms saying i owe £9,500 from 2006 ??? Never heard of this b4,I phoned cms & they said ignore it’s a mistake.

Then in feb 2016 got the same letter & told it’s correct & I owe it ? She has told them that 4 18 months I didn’t pay her which is lies,she asked for cash as it would affect her tax credits & stupidly did coz wanted to benefit her & kids, my case is going on still & I’m fighting it all the way as it’s basically fraud,,I had the kids 3 /4 nights a week over 10 years & cms saying shared access reduction doesn’t count as it’s too long ago ??? But they can send bill from 10 years ago & that’s fine,,

I would luv to hear off anyone in similar situation who could help with advice & info or someone who’s been through this same harrowing experience,18 months of hell up to now ? I’ve contacted my MP & getting a solicitor on board that will cost me £5k ish ,but knowledge is power & would be grateful of any help ??

I pay for our son but ex wife won’t pay for our daughter

March 2, 2017

My ex wife refuses to pay maintenance for our daughter who lives with me, our son lives with her but as I am employed if I don’t pay the CSA takes it straight from my employer. Not that I would never pay as I want to provide for my son but I am providing for both my children as my ex wife has her own hairdressing salon and is self employed so the CSA are powerless to take money from her, also she has declared that she earns 23k per year yet she pays rent on her shop and rents a three bedroom house has holoIdays runs a car on 23k? I do believe she is lying to the tax man!!

CSA won’t chase lying exes for money for our children

March 1, 2017

I have 2 ex that don’t pay for there children 1 asnt payed in years because he’s self employed my daughter is 16 in matter of days he also owes thousands in back pay which I can’t see getting. My 2 boys dad asnt payed in mouths which when csa was involed he knocked his hours down to part time which I believe was a lie as if he knocked his hours down he would be able to see his kids more which he seen in twice this year.

More to pointI thought csa was here to help to make the other parent pay so but I see it all the time people having kids don’t pay for them then move on and have more kids or sometimes I have phone call from csa asking if I’d like there help which I say yes for them to say they can’t help with my daughter’s dad because 1 they can’t find him which may I say my daughter up 2 a year and half ago didn’t see him I found him on Facebook but csa couldn’t find him we met up and for him to say he got csa letters but chose to ignore then think something needs changing.

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