CSA wants money I cannot afford

December 21, 2011

I raised my children for 13 yrs on my own with out any help from my ex-wife or the csa for the 13 years they lived with me, just a letter once a year telling that i was not entitled to anything as my ex-wife was on benifits. Then 3 years ago my eldest daughter went to live with her mam and the youngest stayed with me. This is where the fun begins, last year the csa got in touch with me saying i had to pay £74 a week for my daughter who lives with my ex wife. After argueing with them over how much i have to pay and a tribunal in december last year got it down to £31 a week.

I receive £5 a week for my daughter that lives with me. I am now in court on tuesday 6th december to fight the case that they say i earn £208 a week which works out at £832 a month and they want me to pay £425 a month for the next 9 months. After speaking to them yet again and them telling me that it is not their problem if i can not pay my rent or bills or even if myself and my daughter end up on the streets.

I am paying them £10 a week which is double for what i get for the daughter that lives with me. The court case is over areears that i owe but they wont take my ex wife to court over her arrears because she is on benifits and always has been since the day i met her. Yes i do work as a self employed gardener who survives on tax credits but the csa dont care. To be honest i have been thinking of ending it all as i carnt bare sitting on my arse on benifits. It just seems that if you work and raise your children the correct way you get punished.

Comments

  • joanne says:

    Go and speak to your mp and also write a letter of complaint explaining everything with regards to non payment of the other parent to the csa, send recorded with a deadline to get back to you…sounds very biased to me and bloody unfair! Don’t let these parasites win, and for your children’s sake, esp the child that lives with you fight back and don’t give in to their bullying tactics. Hope when it goes to court the judge will see what a mess they are causing, also csa can’t do anything drastic if you are willing to pay something. Good luck.

  • James says:

    Went to court and got a liability order against me, the judge in charge told me he had to grant it as thier is nothing he can do, he wouldnt even listen to what i had to say. Then a person from the csa said not only can they freeze my bank account they can also suspend my driving license. I got my mp involed before i went to court but he wasnt interested. I wrote to the PM who has now handed my letter and concerns to the department of work and pensions. As for they welfare of my daughter that lives with me their answer was its not their problem that i can pay and we are being forced into poverty and my only alternative is to give up work and go on benifts. Work is the only thing keeping me sane. Ive been diagnosed with having servere depression.

  • joanne says:

    My partner is going through the same dilemma, csa are a law to themselves, and don’t listen. Join us guys on fb if you have an account, lots of guys on there going through the same things that will help you with liability orders etc….and keep on at your mp, pm and ICE, they can’t ignore you forever…what they are doing is wrong…seems to me they are collecting for the state hence why they won’t let it go. My partner loves his job too but might have to go on benefits so two kids here don’t suffer…and before anyone slates him, he provided for his children who are now adults and csa will not accept that they shouldn’t of touched his exs case, but luckily we have an mp on our side.

  • James says:

    My mp asked them to look at my case and then washed his hands of it, had a lettr of him telling me their is nothing more he can do. What gets me is that they can take my child tax credits of me to give to my ex for the daughter that lives with her. Even tho my daughter wont see it as her mother is an alcoholic.

    If you tell me what to join on face book i would quite happily join i will take any help and advice i can. Its so hard being on my own ive shut every body out of my life and sometimes can not see the point of going on. if my daughter wasnt here with me then i dont think i would be either.

  • janet says:

    If you pay the regular amount when the court got it down for you
    You wouldn’t be in this mess they won’t alter it as its cause u defaulted on payments

  • joanne says:

    But its ok that the mother gets to pay zilch Janet, that fair is it?

  • joanne says:

    James Facebook page is, its against the csa corruption and csahell, got some guys on there who will help…and for ppl like Janet, its not about parents not wanting to pay but making it fair…this guy is in dire, he’s raised two children on his own with no help from the mother, show some compassion, and see it from another perspective without being so black and white, not all men are like your exes.

  • janet says:

    What u on about the mother pays nothing!!

  • James says:

    The ex does pay but only £5 a week and not a penny for the 1st 13yrs of their lives, the £5 a week only started getting paid from jan of this year even though she had to pay from the same time as me which was april last year. I know i have to pay but i want it to be fair we have a child each, The csa just hound and hound and punish me for working and not sitting around on my arse all day doing nothing. What was i supposed to do pay them it all so my duaghter that lives with me has to go without where is the fairness in that

  • Craig says:

    James come and have a chat with us on facebook http://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=208080849276548&id=138094386286954&notif_t=share_reply

    You will get plenty of good advice from people who are and have been going through the same nightmare that you are facing

  • James says:

    thank you i will do that

  • Garry Roe says:

    James make a complaint with I.C.E. , it’s a long ball ache process and they’ll try and fob you off BUT stick with it till the end 😉

    http://www.ind-case-exam.org.uk/

  • Garry Roe says:

    Jame PLEASE also write to Ms Maria Miller , she is in charge of and responsible for the CSA/CMEC ….

    Ms Maria Miller
    Department for Work and Pensions
    Caxton House
    Tothill Street
    London
    SW1H 9DA

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