Comments on: CSA want me to sell my home http://www.csahell.com/csa-want-me-to-sell-my-home-328.html Child Support Agency Advice and Complaints Thu, 09 Sep 2010 18:37:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Haysam http://www.csahell.com/csa-want-me-to-sell-my-home-328.html/comment-page-1#comment-2969 Haysam Sun, 25 Jul 2010 23:55:19 +0000 http://www.csahell.com/?p=328#comment-2969 I have smeller or worth experience then this I have not seen my 2 boys for 5 years my ex have few divorce friend with a lots of experience to how to manipulate the system and get away with is the law here in the UK is sucks. I have smeller or worth experience then this I have not seen my 2 boys for 5 years my ex have few divorce friend with a lots of experience to how to manipulate the system and get away with is the law here in the UK is sucks.

]]> By: Charlotte Grantham http://www.csahell.com/csa-want-me-to-sell-my-home-328.html/comment-page-1#comment-1441 Charlotte Grantham Fri, 05 Feb 2010 14:31:58 +0000 http://www.csahell.com/?p=328#comment-1441 Peter, I am so sorry to hear your awful situation, My partners ex has done the exact same thing! She was having an affair with her COUSIN (yes i know how wrong!) and ended up kicking out my partner in 2002, He has 2 children with her (she had 2 from a previous marraige) He started to make payments to her getting her to sign to say she has received them etc just to be on the safe side, anyway her new fellar started to get involved and causing upset by making her not allow my partner to see his 2 children, Making excuses , not turning up at agreed places etc.......it got so bad that my partner ended up taking her to court over it, in the mean time on one occassion he did get to have the children- on there return as he was getting out of the car they both attacked him! then had the cheack to ring the police to say he attacked them!!! thankfully he had photos etc...but the police stilly arrested him and chucked him in a cell!!.......he was released without charge!. Anyway my partner got a court order to see his children (aged then 6 & 2) but she would never obide by it, still never turn up, never meet where they said and always made excuses so he took her back to court ....and in tern done it a total of 3 times and got 3 court orders for her to abide by;but she didnt! The terrible thing happend when he hurd through his solicitor that she had took the children with this bloke to scotland to live!!!!!!!!!! My partner was deverstaed........He felt that when he had his first child with her he always new that in the back of his mind she could be evil so when she asked him to marry her he did it just because he felt that he would have more rights HOW WRONG WAS HE? he never told any of his family as they all hated her, and even kept the wedding a secret up to 6 months after!..... He did have her adress in scotland and one day he aranged to meet her to see the childen, he drove all that way alone tearful, and scared of what might happen, to meet them in a tesco carpark. She said you can take them into mcdonalds while we do our food shopping in tescos, she said dont take photos of them dont ring anyone i.e his parents so they can speak, dont do nothing!!! they sat and chatted but they were so young they just didnt understand. His son who was 6 ish at the time was his life, went every where with him, his little daughter was cute and blonde and just a little daddies girl. Anyway when they came back to get the children from him the new fellar kicked off mouthing off at him saying,"you will never see your kids again" and awful things like that, so my partner lost it compleatly, and hit him!! He had it coming, and he was totally out of order. My partner got back into his car and started the long journey home, crying all the way and listening to them keep ringing him up taunting himdown the phone whilst he could hear the children screaming and crying in the backround. THAT WAS THE LAST TIME HE SAW HIS CHILDREN 8 YEARS AGO!! He has no idea where they are as they have moved 6 or 7 times, yet the csa still are hounding him for money! He had no house, was living on his mums sofa,had no money and was bearly holding down a job due to depression. I know that this dont help you, but I want to say that you are not alone, the delightful CSA have now said that he has arrears of £3000 but wont tell him where from or even how as he has paid every week since SHE put in her claim. They have now said that to accomidate the money for her (as lets make no mistake thats where its going, to her!! her kids wont benifit from it!) they have reduced his protected earnings proportion to £134.99 a week! we have a house 3 children and a life to lead too! How do they expect us to live?? My partner rang them up in tears and he said i may as well end it all as i cant provide for the family i have now, let alone her! and the nasty woman on the other end of the phone said, "well we still well get money from you".......... what even if he's DEAD??? I am astonished at the level the CSA call goons go to upset these poor fathers, my theroy is half the time the woman kicks the fellar out so she can move her new one in....SO THATS HER CHOICE.......I dont see how it can be allowed to have a mother who will take, take, take, off the poor struggling man but dont allow acces.............MADNESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! All I can say to you peter is like my partner one day they will read all the court letters and all the things that their mother has done will be brought to light and they then will be able to have that right to choose.........AND I CANT WAIT FOR THAT DAY! It must be awful for my partner as he only has memories and a very few amount of pictures to remember them by......He wouldnt even recognise them in the street! Good luck xxx Peter,
I am so sorry to hear your awful situation, My partners ex has done the exact same thing! She was having an affair with her COUSIN (yes i know how wrong!) and ended up kicking out my partner in 2002, He has 2 children with her (she had 2 from a previous marraige) He started to make payments to her getting her to sign to say she has received them etc just to be on the safe side, anyway her new fellar started to get involved and causing upset by making her not allow my partner to see his 2 children, Making excuses , not turning up at agreed places etc…….it got so bad that my partner ended up taking her to court over it, in the mean time on one occassion he did get to have the children- on there return as he was getting out of the car they both attacked him! then had the cheack to ring the police to say he attacked them!!! thankfully he had photos etc…but the police stilly arrested him and chucked him in a cell!!…….he was released without charge!.
Anyway my partner got a court order to see his children (aged then 6 & 2) but she would never obide by it, still never turn up, never meet where they said and always made excuses so he took her back to court ….and in tern done it a total of 3 times and got 3 court orders for her to abide by;but she didnt!
The terrible thing happend when he hurd through his solicitor that she had took the children with this bloke to scotland to live!!!!!!!!!! My partner was deverstaed……..He felt that when he had his first child with her he always new that in the back of his mind she could be evil so when she asked him to marry her he did it just because he felt that he would have more rights HOW WRONG WAS HE? he never told any of his family as they all hated her, and even kept the wedding a secret up to 6 months after!…..
He did have her adress in scotland and one day he aranged to meet her to see the childen, he drove all that way alone tearful, and scared of what might happen, to meet them in a tesco carpark. She said you can take them into mcdonalds while we do our food shopping in tescos, she said dont take photos of them dont ring anyone i.e his parents so they can speak, dont do nothing!!! they sat and chatted but they were so young they just didnt understand. His son who was 6 ish at the time was his life, went every where with him, his little daughter was cute and blonde and just a little daddies girl.
Anyway when they came back to get the children from him the new fellar kicked off mouthing off at him saying,”you will never see your kids again” and awful things like that, so my partner lost it compleatly, and hit him!! He had it coming, and he was totally out of order.
My partner got back into his car and started the long journey home, crying all the way and listening to them keep ringing him up taunting himdown the phone whilst he could hear the children screaming and crying in the backround.
THAT WAS THE LAST TIME HE SAW HIS CHILDREN 8 YEARS AGO!! He has no idea where they are as they have moved 6 or 7 times, yet the csa still are hounding him for money!
He had no house, was living on his mums sofa,had no money and was bearly holding down a job due to depression.

I know that this dont help you, but I want to say that you are not alone, the delightful CSA have now said that he has arrears of £3000 but wont tell him where from or even how as he has paid every week since SHE put in her claim. They have now said that to accomidate the money for her (as lets make no mistake thats where its going, to her!! her kids wont benifit from it!) they have reduced his protected earnings proportion to £134.99 a week! we have a house 3 children and a life to lead too! How do they expect us to live?? My partner rang them up in tears and he said i may as well end it all as i cant provide for the family i have now, let alone her! and the nasty woman on the other end of the phone said, “well we still well get money from you”………. what even if he’s DEAD??? I am astonished at the level the CSA call goons go to upset these poor fathers, my theroy is half the time the woman kicks the fellar out so she can move her new one in….SO THATS HER CHOICE…….I dont see how it can be allowed to have a mother who will take, take, take, off the poor struggling man but dont allow acces………….MADNESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

All I can say to you peter is like my partner one day they will read all the court letters and all the things that their mother has done will be brought to light and they then will be able to have that right to choose………AND I CANT WAIT FOR THAT DAY!
It must be awful for my partner as he only has memories and a very few amount of pictures to remember them by……He wouldnt even recognise them in the street!

Good luck xxx

]]> By: McNALLY http://www.csahell.com/csa-want-me-to-sell-my-home-328.html/comment-page-1#comment-1382 McNALLY Mon, 18 Jan 2010 17:49:25 +0000 http://www.csahell.com/?p=328#comment-1382 A fairer csa for all..co.blah blah Get real,you will lose everything,you shagged the woman,now she is gonna screw you to the end. But wait the fun starts when your daughter becomes an adult. Ive lost homes cars every thing,its all to do with money eh! You love your daughter that much then dont loose your head, You want to see the face of your ex when your daughter gets in touch, Ive waited 7 years and im gonna spend the next years catching up, its worth it F*** the csa and all that work for them A fairer csa for all..co.blah blah
Get real,you will lose everything,you shagged the woman,now she is gonna screw you to the end.
But wait the fun starts when your daughter becomes an adult.
Ive lost homes cars every thing,its all to do with money eh!
You love your daughter that much then dont loose your head,
You want to see the face of your ex when your daughter gets in touch,
Ive waited 7 years and im gonna spend the next years catching up, its worth it

F*** the csa and all that work for them

]]> By: Kerry http://www.csahell.com/csa-want-me-to-sell-my-home-328.html/comment-page-1#comment-1372 Kerry Thu, 14 Jan 2010 12:45:08 +0000 http://www.csahell.com/?p=328#comment-1372 Peter, my heart goes out to you, I am a Mum going through, not as bad, I thought it was untill i read your story ,situation as you. Yesterday I joined afairercsaforall.co.uk. This site has given me hope, i know we can't fight the world,but to be proactive does help,I don't blame you for walking a way, Ive felt like it so many times and yes sometimes ending it all. The child support agency has a lot to answer to, non of the people they chase, ruin lives or distroy are dead beat parents, and I say parents because it doesn't just happen to dads believe me.Take a look at the website and be strong for your daughter. Kerry Peter, my heart goes out to you, I am a Mum going through, not as bad, I thought it was untill i read your story ,situation as you. Yesterday I joined afairercsaforall.co.uk. This site has given me hope, i know we can’t fight the world,but to be proactive does help,I don’t blame you for walking a way, Ive felt like it so many times and yes sometimes ending it all. The child support agency has a lot to answer to, non of the people they chase, ruin lives or distroy are dead beat parents, and I say parents because it doesn’t just happen to dads believe me.Take a look at the website and be strong for your daughter.

Kerry

]]> By: chall http://www.csahell.com/csa-want-me-to-sell-my-home-328.html/comment-page-1#comment-1355 chall Thu, 07 Jan 2010 09:45:41 +0000 http://www.csahell.com/?p=328#comment-1355 Peter, come and join us in the forum at www.afairercsaforall.co.uk - once there you will be amongst 1567 other's who are having or have had problems with the agency and child contact, you could gain much needed support and advice. Peter, come and join us in the forum at http://www.afairercsaforall.co.uk

- once there you will be amongst 1567 other’s who are having or have had problems with the agency and child contact, you could gain much needed support and advice.

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