CSA want me to pay my rich ex
February 2, 2010
Hi can anyone give me some decent advise…Im a women not man lol….
I had very nasty divource wish bastard was dead sorry guys but its true….he and my mother took my 3 babies off me Im still left with 2 daugters that they couldnt get there hands on thx god….
Im on low income 205 week plus i get working and child tax credits the csa are taking from my wages and my tax credits….
I dont claim for the other 3 the goverment top my wages up by giving me my tax credits so why is it allowed that the csa can help them selfs to this aswell…
my rent is 425 and you can say its a shoe box….in block off flats..my two child eat noodles and noodles smart price Lm constanly in debt with bank…i cant afford pay my council tax im now in arrears Im not eatin proberly…ive had to work overtime to get myself out off debt im tired now mth off doin it but im still 700 pounds overdrawn still I wrote to csa tellin them not to take twice the amount out my acc i sent them details off my incoming and outgoings from debt councillor I guess they dont give a shit my two kids are hungry then and are depressed cause mum is always at work to feed them…and pay my ex for there sisters keep…
i dont mind paying them some money after all l gave birth to them…wat can I do to make my two daughters lives better now i wounder wat a takeaway tastes like? and to take my kids the pictures or even buy them a present is not happening right now xmas they got nothing my ex called me even called me with kids asking to see me ….he said i should take them out to the wackey when they come wtf is he a dick head or what???? l dont have anymoney to feed myself let alone take wat he calls his kids out to the fin wackey….
so hope himself and his girlfriend who moved in with him to have my kids off me are happy nice for him 30k plus job new girlfriend 2 incomes plus my csa money so thats nice life for him….
I wanna knw how i can make my life easier for me and my 2 gurls i wanna go shop and not worry about buyin bloody milk and bread???
I wanna knw how i can apply to court and have everythin looked at now and get a payment maintaince order drawn up from court not csa….
if not then theres only one option for me i cant get married cause they take ur partners wage into acc aswell is this true???
when my 2 daughters are able to look after them selfs go uni pay that themselfs Im off out off this fin country???? and go live outside the e u …….fuk ur self nigel and my mother…..lifes a bitch but i will be one back one day…..so if i go l ll be getting my own back on the other side off the world…..in small fuked up land just so i can eat and be left the fuk alone……..and have children with someone else and not meet another dick like you who take ur babies away …..yes im very angry right now…
or i can drop my 30 hrs off work to look after my poor daughters who i still have…and drop my wages below 100 which will do my head in sit at home basically on dole not me but hey…how many mothers do you knw work when they had 5 kids all girls and ages 14,12,5,twins are 4 seroiusly i need some free adivise now…if csa find out im workin my arse off on overtime they will take that too…so im surposed to starve all 3 off us….this is all because my ex hates me and is racist pig….and doesnt believe in god…..at all….
I found out im mixed race after i had my twins he said what i didnt wanna marry anyone other than white girl???? and im now muslim it has helped me and it pissed him off….emmm i dnt care its same god ive believed in my whole life…just different look at it…it saved my life he took my girls its stoped my toppin myself so many times….
i hate him…that will neva stop but hes forgien for what hes done now….but i need to knw how i can make better life for what i have left before i loose anythin more…
if i have to give up my job just so i can pay my rent and bills and to be able to get food on table then i will..all my respect will be gone then….doley shame off it….
goverment will pAY MY RENT AND BILLS…DOLE MONEY WILL PAY MY FOOD ELEC ETC…this is another option for me at min???
please can anyone give me some adivise can i take them to court to apply for a maintance order what should i do where can i start….i tried sending them lettes with all info they asked for so they can review my payments but they havent done thing????
i need help ??????
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So sorry to hear you’re having such a crap time. Thankfully you are at least blessed with two babies that keep you grounded. Just a thought but why doesn’t he pay CSA for the two you have? He’s legally bound to do so. If there isn’t a claim outstanding I’d start one immediately. For the record, do not tell the CSA about any overtime or tax credits as they will add that as your income (trust me, I’m speaking from experience!) They cannot take your partners income into account unless you tell them about it. It’s how we are managing at the moment as my hubby has the CSA after him for a child he’s denied access to and I refuse to pay a penny on his behalf. Everything is in my name including income. I couldn’t sit at home all day either – unlike his ex who’s a benefit scrounger who smokes drugs and watches Jeremy Kyle all day….lol. Joking aside, I really wish you all the best and truly believe what goes around comes around…x
To echo the above poster.
If your ex is father to your two daughters that live with you, have you claim child maintenance from him?
I cant make claim for my 2 children living with me as there farther is unknown just say that its safer option for them as there dad tried to do somethink to me and I had lucky escape!!! the police have said if he contacts me or finds me here were I live then they will bang him up for good….
the dad off the 3 girls took us all on years ago let them call him dad…soon as he left that all changed he broughtthem up from baby too..sad for them really…now i just think if i ever find someone else itll be a friend that will be role model but not dad…better that way they wont feel let down by dad figure again….
as for the csa they already knw im claiming tax credits? so what do i do now……
if I meet someone then I wont tell them and he can claim tax credits on my behalf then one way out offt his mess….
as for overtime ? how can i not tell them they phe work to find out my wages in it????
it ll be on my wage slips???
new tax year starts soon??? april so my wage slips start again then Ive just start payin so do bit overtime after they have assessed it then after 6 mths they do it again then they leave it another 6mth to year……..
so ill be doin overtime now til end march then im stopping?
as for my tax credits im not goin to claim it for few mths then Ill claim it at later date…thatll reduce his money lol I hate my ex hes money mad…I just wanna pay my way not get greedy…like some poeple……
hes probly goin down bookies again… with my money he likes horses he wasted 4000 off our money I caught him tryin to win it back tried to stop him but he went behind my back doin it? shame really just finished relationship off even more than his racist comments about colour off my skin…..
his new girlfriend is his best mate mans wifes twin sister too…and his best mate like dogs so Im thinkin yeah my money aint goin on the kids….
when they did visit they were always in the clothes i gave him when they had to be handed over in end they had holes in etc etc….when i had to pay him money then he did manage to get them new coats so it made me feel better……
as for presents i gave them he throw them at me in street and said he didnt want pack*** cloths in his house? wtf*** I bought them from bloody peacocks they were so nice I got them skinny legging and long woolie bright stylish jumpers that covered them up they had little dolly shoes too..they picked them out…
so that upset my kids i told the eldest off the 3 to tell daddy you want them and you can wear them coz you choice them and mummy bought them us for present for eid….
so wat do I do stop claimin tax credits for few mths…then reclaim not tell them wont they find out im claiming it?
my new name Ive changed to sl
they knw me as my old english name and my husbands sirname? ha
as for if i get married Im not tellin them shit or about him or my new married name either so how do i hide my over time then
so I need to knw can i take them to court? over rule them in court with maintaince order
how do I hide my overtime coz Im now 800 pounds overdrawn and need to work my arse off to catch up or Im in more debt than ever
how do I get out off them not knwin about tax credits etc?
I might give up my job soon Lm better off on dole at this rate….Ive been told by job center Im better off not working at min? joke or wat?
I dont like been sit at home mum on dole never eva..boring like my daughters to learn that you have to work to keep ur kids not be pram pusher ya knw wat I mean…but all Im teachin them at min is working and havin ex like that is your husband takes urs kids off you coz he didnt like you managin without him and keepin you job with five kids….
he only got kids coz police told me to change the locks on my house that I used to own but becoz I did that they arrested me anyway? the world is fuk up coz his name was on the bloody mortage he had rights ????? wtf!!!!!! the police new wat was goin on but the co said he felt sorry for me but had to do wat he had to do…B*********d
any ideas people ????