It’s the good people that get screwed by the system

November 23, 2017

My story is a short one. Got a job and notified the CMS before starting. No payment calculation sent out, nevertheless I paid my ex based on my last payment. They sent letters to an address I didn’t give them, then I called up and asked what was happening and updated my contact details. Months after the sent me a calculation with months of arrears. I have not missed a months payment at all. The new payment is £50 more and has been under a year so not sure how I have racked up thousands of pounds of arrears. They sent me a letter threatening leagal action, I paid and they said issued a deduction of earnings. Now they want more than double of what I should be paying.

Like someone above i was tricked into a baby, but I never held this against the baby as it’s not his fault. I want to provide as that is the right thing to do. She has not worked since she had him and is treating me as an ATM.

I am at a crossroads of quitting my job as I can’t afford to live and pay unjust arrears whilst she sits and gets everything handed to her.

For all the women on here slating men, it’s the good people that get screwed by the system. The bad ones play the system well.

I’d appreciate any help with this.


My ex is refusing to pay for my son

October 1, 2017

My ex is refusing to pay for my son. I have now been told that he has moved to a different country & they can’t chase him but he worked for a governor based company in Scotland & now gets a pension from them. Am I right in thinking his wages can get arrested before it goes to him? They have also closed my case for a few months without even telling me & when I called up to speak to them about my case there was no mention that they had closed it & happily discussed my case. Something isn’t right at all.

They call it back pay, I call it robbery

August 9, 2017

I have had two children, one is 28 yrs and the other is 33 yrs and I am still paying child support they call it back pay I call it robbery, they have been taking 250.00 from my wages for 7 years with no proof I am the dad they are only charging me for one child and I have two of them I would love to go to court but can’t afford it, I have been to prison, for four years, I am not on the birth certificate and all of this has been going on since 1996 and its still going on I have thought about ending my life, but then they win and I loose CAN ANYBODY HELP ME PLEASE

The more I earn, the more they take

August 4, 2017

I havent seen my children in 5 years, my ex has an order on me thru false information, im currently paying 130 perweek and have had to leave my flat, sell my car, and give up lots of things, i have no bother paying for them even tho it would be nice to see them, im 6000 in arrears as the payments are getting higher, i cant afford to pay, now im renting a room at 30 per week and am barely affording to live myself, im on debt up to my eyeballs and seriously struggling, she has a new boyfriend and the child maintenance service have literally said they dont care about me.

I know that the payments i make are going on drink and drugs and now they have a DEO that im now stuck with…the more i earn the more they take….what the hell am i supposed to live off

Does owning 3 businesses affect how much CSA you pay

August 21, 2016

I am enquiring on behalf of my girlfriend, she is looking to use CSA against her former boyfriend. He has his own businesses but presumably only pays himself enough in wages to avoid paying much tax.

Would you happen to know if owning 3 businesses would have any effect on the amount of CSA payable? I wonder whether the value/assets of the businesses are taken into account.

I would really appreciate your help in this matter.

Many thanks,

Ex stopped him seeing his son when he got a new partner

August 20, 2016

I myself have never called csa for money off my sons dad Purley because he’s never wanted to bother but my story is about my partner and it absolutely breaks My heart so if anyone could help please please please reply…

The mother took everything away from him when she cheated and he walked in. That’s where it all broke down.. he then pulled the engagement ring off her finger she then manipulated the situation and got him locked up over night and a restraint order on him.. he was seeing his child regularly and all was fine until he got a new girlfriend….

She then stopped him seeing him demanded money that she would spend on other things than their child.. he stopped paying. Regularly I see him break down because he can not see his child! It makes me sick how Read more

Loop hole means my ex doesn’t have to pay CSA

July 18, 2016

Csa said they had no jurisdiction on getting my sons father to pay because he works in private security earning a whopping 4500 per month and tax free but due to the loop hole in the English law system this is how dads get away with paying anything at all including tax.

Please help me get this loop hole closed so that all dads and mums who work out of the country but hold a uk passport and are from here legally have to pay so their children can have shoes that fit their little growing feet. Clothes that fit their growing bodies. Be warm. Have food in the fridge that helps them grow and learn and have the life they deserve.

From a hard working mum to a beautiful growing boy

Husband’s ex did a runner, now CSA wants money from him

July 16, 2016

My husband has 3 children by his first partner who paid for 4months then did a runner she owes an historic debt of 80+ thousand his he had a disabled child with his second partner who also has not paid.

He has paid for the agency to chase payments and they cant locate her with all that is available to the government this person cannot be found yet today he has been sent a letter asking him to pay £25.71 a week for child he has a residence order since 2009.

Need help and info for ombudsman asap please the csa have had the details for both absent parents yet have taken so long to get the case sorted they ended up moving away this department has so many resources available but they never use then it is a total shambles

Ex has everything while I have nothing

June 19, 2016

I was unemployed for a time and when i started work the csa aid i was in arrears because of this so i started the case in arrears they didnt tell me till i started back at work . And then wanted extra money off me because i was unemployed now my arrears has built up because i have changed jobs again and they dont take into account the debt ive got because of my ex wife .

While she has a caravan goes away on holidays has a lovely house and a car i have a one bedroom flat and a misserable life why cant this be fair?

CSA wants money I do not have

June 16, 2016

I earn around £350 a month and the csa want £576 a month. they have said I haven’t given them 2 payslips when I have only received 0ne payment they have said the 30 days notice is up and I have to take them to court. in the meantime they have said I still have to make that payment of £576 which is impossible.

their is a lot more info.

can you help

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