CSA destroyed my family and left me unable to help my daughter

September 7, 2017

If ever CSA destroyed a family it was my two children and I. All they cared about was the money not the welfare of my children which were kidnapped by their mother Without a trace. I went to the child support office to get help and guidance. There answer was: Sorry, we cannot help you because if we give you the address and something happens we are responsible. You will have to find them then we can do something. This was in 1996 when household computers were not affordable. I hired a private detective to find her which took months. Finally, I found where they were so I go to the child support office worker and give her the info and their words were: “We cannot do anything because they have been living in that state for 6 months so legally they are residents of the state and we cannot make her and the children return.

I would have to go the the west coast from here the east coast hire a lawyer get a place to stay and take her to court to return the children. The ramifications of me doing that would have been losing everything. So what was I bringing them back to homelessness and jobless which the courts would have never given them to me. The CSA and the NJ Family Courts did nothing to help.This was 21 years ago and recently I found out that my daughter had been molested by her older step brother for years and the mother and family knew this and did nothing to seprerate her or lock him up. He is still there. Upon my finding out and her being of age I went to California and today she has been living with me for a month now.

I don’t know what to do next other than keep my daughter with me.I don’t trust the system and the crime they help perpetrate.


One Response to “CSA destroyed my family and left me unable to help my daughter”

  1. David on September 8th, 2017 10:12 am

    Dear Robert

    My heart goes out to you. It’s hard to know what to say to bring a little comfort to you except to say I understand you plight. I am happy for you that at least one of your children are living with you know. She may have been traumatised by her ordeal. Be the best father you can and begin to show her how she should be treated by a man. She will learn by your example. Be kind to her. That doesn’t mean you cannot exact discipline when necessary of course. She may also need counselling but ensure you think carefully who she sees for this.

    My children were taken from me during my divorce and the mind of the eldest poisoned against me (surprise surprise). It was a long time before I could see them and it made me very depressed and suicidal. I could not work for 3 years. Life just wasn’t worth living as I lived for my kids and we were close.

    The court system, CSA/CMS are all part of a very evil system to both destroy families and make us poor. If we are disaffected, they can control us. What mothers do not realise is that they too are part of this web of deceit but they will be adversely affected as well. There is a conspiracy to destroy families within many nation (if not all).

    We have to hold firm and fight back but we cannot do that without knowledge. After many years fighting the court system and CSA I now see my beautiful children. We need expert knowledge from someone who really care. I long to help fathers and spent many years studying Family and Child Support law. It is not for the faint hearted and that’s why 99.99 per cent of lawyers do not practice Child Support law.

    I gather you might be an American and your children and child support issues are within the jurisdiction of the USA?

    Take care

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