CSA want money, but other debts come first!
March 21, 2010
In 2001 my marriage broke down after many troubled years and psychological problems suffred by my wife due to childhood abuse at the hands of social service employees. The breakup was amicable and my ex-wife and I had a financial arrangment where I paid her around £300 per month and I also took out a personal loan to take on all the family debt that was in joint names and put it all into my name to reduce the financial burden on her. It is not a fantastic amount of money but on an annual gross salary of £17,000 it is not an insignificant amount.
We also shared the social responsibility of bringing our children up to be responsible in society and still do, although they are now all out of full time education. Because my ex-wife was and still is on benefits, some 9 years later the CSA became involved and interevened in our financial arrangement. They made a calculation on the old system and came up with a much higher figure that I could not afford and Read more
My ex wife and the CSA
March 20, 2010
Why should I pay csa for my kids when I am not allowed to see them?
March 20, 2010
I have been with my feiencee for just over a year now and my ex wife has decided to stop me seeing my kids and blaming my feiancee for this!
she is telling lies to my children and other people and has managed to turn my eldest daughter against us both!! My feiancee has never done any wrong to my children, she has taken me out of a 2 bedroomed scabby council flat in to a nice new 3 bedroomed house which is a better environment for myself and my children to which my ex wife is extreamily jealous of aswell as my relationship!!!
it has taken me this long to relise that over the past 7 years that we have been deivorced that she has been controlling me yes i must bee a compleate twat to let someone control me but at the time i didnt relise it!!!! we both work full time and my feiancee has 3 children from a preivious marrage, her children live with there dad and Read more
CSA arrears help please
March 19, 2010
anyone know a good lawer for csa problems?
My case closed 2007 or 2008. They gave me 2 dates on which it closed strenge ?? Anyway my problem is these twats are saying i owe £5800 in arrears from 1994 to 2002. How i dont know.
They never started taking money from me till 1999. I was reassesed in 2001, then never heard off them… till 2008 when they said i owe all this money. I wrote, been on the phone, everything. They claim Read more
Self employed getting away without paying CSA
March 19, 2010
Today I received a new schedule after asking the CSA to review maintenance for my three daughters. I have been advised that my ex partner has less than £5 net income each week and is not eligible to contribute anything towards their up bringing. Despite having his own business in the motor trade and a good standard of living on paper I’m told it is not sustainable?
Apparently,holidays abroad and luxurious items in and around the home are not considered living beyond his means??? It upsets me that someone can go to this extreme just to avoid contributing to the up bringing of their own flesh and blood.
CSA never offer an answer to how he is indeed surviving. When is this loophole to self employment ever going to be recognised?
CSA set the police on me
March 19, 2010
It seems to me, and the dealings I’ve had with the C.S.A. recently, there is only one way to deal with them, I too, am at the end of my tether. They have the law sewn up with Laws they created, independent tribunal is nothing of the sort, as your defence is always manacled on grounds you are aloud to appeal, monies they take in similar fashion to “loan sharking” constantly demanding more.
The C.S.A. are above the law they have there own agenda which has nothing to do with welfare of children. Therefore don’t comply with the law or even answer correspondence. I recently sent a letter to the C.S.A. explaining what I had to do to Read more
Ex took my son away, then set CSA on me
March 18, 2010
I feel so alone as everyone always assumes this happens to fathers. I am a mother. My ex did not return one of my 2 sons after a half term holiday. He in fact sent me a text to inform me. That was 4 years ago. I am in arrears of approx £7000.00. It took the CSA over a year to come up with that amount. It did stand at 16k at one point.
I feel bullied, abused, unsure of the actual law. I have to pay my ex £300 a year to pay of the debt. My son is now 19 so no further claims can be made against me. My ex husband is a controlling bully. I feel the CSA have just continued the abuse and bullying.
I once got the data held against me and it implied that I hung up the phone, Like one of your fathers letters to the CSA I never did this. Am I respoinsible for the poor reception in my workplace and vodafone! The stress has been enourmous, I don’t know how I have Read more
Ex using CSA to ruin my life
March 18, 2010
I’ve just read Patrick Rodgers’ post (February 13). You have my sympathy, Patrick. Let me tell you how my ex has screwed the system. It won’t make you feel any better about your problems, but this is how bad it could get…
My ex is not a UK national. Born in South Africa, where her family made their fortune in diamond mining. But she came over here from Sydney.
I was bullied into our marriage, she got pregnant, and I was bullied out of it again. I divorced her for her unreasonable behaviour, which of course means diddly squat now. I’ve always had a lot of depression trouble, so I had nothing when I went into the marriage, and I had nothing when I came out. We were together for 18 months.
I began to do contract work, and (big mistake, this) my wife was my company secretary (which you must have if you operate a Limited Company). She asked the bank for a cheque book on my business account, and promptly emptied it. Almost 4K gone, my contract over so no more income for a while, and a VAT bill to pay somehow. This was right after I had CSA’s Read more
CSA system is so unfair to fathers who work
March 17, 2010
There are 2 sides to my story.. I have been trying to get maintenance for my 2 children since 1994, My ex husbands debt was regonised as being £21,000 in 1998, and i have kept every single letter the csa have ever sent me! In all this time he has been self employed and lived a very comfortable lifestyle, big house, nice car, horses.. The csa even visited him at home once and saw how he lived but after investigations i was told he had nil assessable income. ???? ( he had a good accountant ) i contacted them again recently as i hadnt heard from them for years and was told he only owed £14,000 ??? I was told that this will go to court and be regonised as a debt.. Every time i ring i am told the same story, this has been going on now for 15 wks.
How long does it take to gather paperwork together, I can supply them with every Read more
CSA are holding my money
March 17, 2010
My ex partner has been back at work since May2009. The CSA were informed by both myself and him of this but to date have failed to sort out my case, or give me a payment schedule. They are holding £308.88 of my money until their ‘calculations have been checked’ on what arrears I’m owed. Every time I call or complain I’m told its in the final stages and could take up to 8 weeks to be finalised…this 8 weeks seems to be a moving target. Its always 8 weeks from my phone call!
As far as my ex is concerned, he’s paying, but they are not passing it on to me.
Is there some other way to get justice as their own complaints proceedure doesn’t seem to get me anywhere!?!
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