October 24, 2014
My daughter is now 18years old. She lived with me until earlier this year when she moved to the Glasgow area where here father lives. My daughter left school in December 2013 when she was still only 17 years old and moved in with her father in March 2014.
Her father and I separated when she was 1 year old. Until she turned 16 years old her father successfully dodged the CSA by quitting jobs and moving house if the CSA ever caught up with him. I on the other hand worked full time, and in 2006 started a successful career as a civil servant.
I worked extremely hard to get where I am and missed out a lot of the time on my daughter growing up and still encouraged her contact with her father every weekend. The CSA were no real help to me- it was a financial struggle the older my daughter got.
My daughter started a non-advanced course in college in Renfrewshire in August 2014, totalling in an 8 month break from education and turning 18years old in that time too. You can imagine my disappointment when I received a letter from the CSA informing me that the dutiful father had put a claim into the CSA against me.
So it has been decided that I have to pay father of the year £2786.05 a year as long as my daughter is in education. So father of the year has decided he wants a direct debit arrangement set up on a monthly basis.
The sad, sorry excuse of not just a father but a man too is now laughing all the way to the bank with my hard earned cash – I will point out that he was eventually made to pay me a grand total of £512 in my daughters final year at school- a tiny fraction of what I will now have to pay, given I had no financial help during her schooling prior to this.
So my experience of the CSA is extremely negative. My struggle feels like it was for nothing and just because I eventually got a successful job which included a promotion I worked hard for, I am actually being punished.
Her father is a waster and never wanted a full time or well paid job purely to avoid paying for his child. Completely disgusting attitude from the CSA to me, delving into my business eg my earnings and details of my future pension. I am absolutely shocked of the CSAs treatment to me and now treating my daughters father as the poor victim. Dispicable!!!!
October 23, 2014
Some may be aware I’ve had problems from the start with CSA over variation of income from children’s father …. But that is small in comparison to the position in now in.
Im a d.v case with a non mol against my ex and I was moved away from my old adress to keep me and 3boys safe…
To cut along story alittle shorter I filled in a form to pass over my bank details they decided to also send my new add in the knowledge of my non mole what now?
October 22, 2014
Evening gents. I had a problem with the CSA a few months ago. All done and dusted now. Just need some advice on another matter.
My ex has taken my 3 year old son to another part of the country. No notice at all. Just took off in the middle of the night 3 weeks ago with some guy she met online. She has refused to give me her address and has since blocked me on Facebook.
What can I do? Can she actually do this? Do I have a say?
October 21, 2014
I was paying csa for my son till he was about 5 then nomore.i was in and out of work,then 2 yrs ago ended up on jsa again then it was taken of me again.
So cause of csa messing up for about 13yrs had not payed any, csa cant say i had to inform them i was in or out of work and to top it all of not 1 phone call or letter from csa to inform me of anything.
My son is now 19 so i should not be paying now.if csa had informed me i would of known where i stood.
October 20, 2014
My daughter attended 4/5 colleges for a couple of weeks when she turned 16 she was chucked out because she never attended but my ex wife and daughter were claiming she attended.
I have social service reports to say she was no longer in education every time i phoned csa they tell you while family allowance is still being payed they can t do anything.
I reported this as fraud 6 times even my mother also did still i paid csa until last sept when she reached 18 csa are now telling me i missed 1 months payment and they want £175 from me or there taking me to court.
They owe me 2yrs worth but nobody listens.
October 19, 2014
After 10 years in a marriage where i was miserable due to emotional bullying as well as some physical bullying at times. I made the decision to leave my husband.
We have two daughters together and i know he would not hurt them. The situation before i left him was as follow:
He had left his full time job and decided to work in a school as a teacher’s assistant.
I had to go to work full time and quite often was doing 14 hours shift a day. Hardly saw my girls as I worked so much. The girls got used to have their dad look after them before and after school.
When I decided to leave my husband he told me he would not let me take the girls and in order to keep things as amicable as possible and due to my work I agreed that he would for now be the main carer. It would have been cruel of me to take my girls, have a child minder, not see my girls myself and not let them see their dad.
I left everything in the house. I furnished the house, I bought beds, tables, furniture, my parent’s furniture too. flooring. All DYI was done by myself. But I left everything as to not confuse the children too much. I kept buying after leaving him too. a new Lawnmower, Barbecue. garden trees and plants, flooring for the bathroom. etc…
Their father refused to tell the girls for over a year that I had left him and kept saying that mummy was working away. in the mean time I took on his credit card debts at my name to help him financially and kept on paying gas and electricity for the house.
I was coming back to visit at the week ends and slept in the girl’s bedroom floor. I said it was because their dad was snoring too much. but i could feel that the girls were missing the truth.
Finally one day, their dad decided to tell the girls that i had left him. He did so without me being present which meant my oldest daughter was very upset with me.
I tried to resolve this by taking the girls to France for a week’s holiday at my parents, but something happened and my oldest daughter decided she didn’t want to go. I had her dad on the phone to me trying to see if i would force her to come with me then calling my solicitor to say I’d threatened to kidnap her. I had to go to France with only one of my girls.
It took a few months to be able to resolve this with my oldest daughter but when I finally managed to get through, she accepted the situation and was happy again with me.
Their father then introduced them to his new girlfriend and had her move into the house after New Year. Ever since this, my oldest has now again decided she does not want to be with me and her dad refuses to bring her to me.
I have not seen my oldest child in over three months.
With this. We agreed that I would finish to pay the debt off before we discussed any maintenance. I did give him what I could on top of the payment to the debts, and offered to pay for the girls School trips. Also i made sure I would buy the girls clothes and when they were with me I would ensure they are properly fed and looked after.
However, In April. My now ex-husband has decided to contact CSA and is now getting £400 from me every month. I have had to get an IVA set up as this amount of money is taking me over my monthly payment after I have paid the debts off and my journey to work. I do not buy myself food or clothes to ensure i have some cash when my youngest daughter comes to visit.
The situation has been made worse as he has now bought his girlfriend an engagement ring but when he brought my daughter for a visit this week end, she had some old clothes that are too small for her. When i told him he needs to ensure she has clothes that fit her, I am then told that I am being unreasonable. Tonight ended in an argument as my daughter plainly told them she did not want to go back with them and wanted to stay with me. I was then accused of brainwashing my younger daughter.
I had to let my daughter go back to her father’s house in tears and very stressed.
October 18, 2014
I feel as if i have been let down by the system everything seems to go in favour of the ladies. i work hard for my money my ex partner does not work .
But then she has no need to work when she is receiving csa money as well as half the mortgage and half endowment. and i still have to paid rent as well as live.
The whole justice system is so unfair to lawbiding tax payer.time i pay all the money out as well as my expenses .i may as well be on the dole.
October 18, 2014
Hello. I have recently received a letter stating my daughters father no longer needs to pay anything towards the daily living expenses and upbringing of our daughter due to earning less than 5 pound per week. From the 25th sept 14!
Therefore a part parent from the 1st Sept 14 up until the 25th sept 14 is still out standing in which has been deducted from his account but not released to be paid to me.
I have telephoned and emailed regarding this in which they have stated this payment is due but on hold in their accounts due to 12 pound having to be paid back to him which is only fair. I was due this money nearly two weeks ago and still haven’t received any communication or funds.
October 18, 2014
Basically a computer error by the csa caused my arrears to go up by £200+.
Even though they have received payments directly from my benefit, they still say that I am liable for the xtra arrears they created.
October 17, 2014
I desperately need some help with this situation. My CSA case is (almost) closed. There is apparently a £1000 ‘suspended debt’ from Oct 2006 to Jan 2008.
I paid my ex directly £200 each month. This amount was £120 less than the amount due (by mutual agreement) because of an £1800 over-payment a year earlier. These payments continued for 15 months, at which point the debt was clear.
The CSA wrote to me in Jan 2008 saying “Your last payment of regular maintenance to us for
I have sent a copy of this letter, plus the relevant records of debit from my account, which correspond to the cheques paid directly to my ex. (Bank records aren’t available that far back) I also sent a table of payments made; this has the statement “15 deductions of £120 (inc 3 on 17/3/07 in £600 chq) = £1800.00 : overpaid now clear” written and initialed by my ex on 15/3/2008.
From a conversation with the CSA case officer, it seems that in spite of this evidence, all my ex has to do is to deny receiving the money, whereupon the CSA will draw up a payment schedule for me to pay this £1000 (AGAIN!).
What can I do?
Can I force my ex to produce her bank statements for the dates in question, to show her corresponding account credits?
Doesn’t the letter from the CSA in 2008 mean that I was fully paid up?
Doesn’t her initialed statement on the payment table have any evidential value?