CSA bullying me, I need advice and help
February 28, 2012
Hello there, I require advice and possibly your help. I have recently been contacted by the CSA and been re-assessed on my payments to my ex wife for my 12yr old son. I split from my wife approx 10yrs ago and in August of 2003 my ex-wife filed for csa payments. I have always paid, 6 yrs ago I remarried and we had a daughter who is now 4. Approx 2yrs ago I relocated to London from sheffield, My ex wife has stopped all contact with me and my son i have continually tried to see him but she has not allowed it for the past 4 yrs ( since my daughter with my second wife was born).
It is a very long story, I’d prefer to explain in more detail in person, The point of this is that they have now requested I pay over £300per month. I cannot afford this large payment per month when i earn only £2000 per month with a £1250 rent per month in addition to all my bills, £180 council tax etc and general living costs for the welfare of my 4 yr old daughter and my wife. I know for a fact that my exwife who has also remarried has a joint income of around £80,000 per annum, she does not need this money she is just being very spiteful, vindictive and evil. Please I am in a very desperate situation, my relationship with my wife is very strained, i am sick with worry and feel this is very very unfair.
my life is hard enough on just 1 wage, (my wife does not work, she cares for our daughter)we live day to day, I am not even allowed to see my son, through no fault or choice of my own, (my ex-wifes decision). I need to speak to someone asap to assist me in sorting this out.I am thinking about giving up my job as i cannot afford to part with such a large payment to csa and knowing full well, that money will not even be spent on my son. A son who I cannot see and who I gave up everything for as my ex-wife threatened to take him away when our marriage ended. Since then she has chosen when I get to see him at her convenience, even changed his name, which I am sure I did not consent to and now the last 4 yrs has allowed me NO contact what so ever with him but every birthday and xmas she dictates what I MUST buy him, xmas just gone DEC 2011, I paid for a £400 laptop.
Please please can someone give me some legal advice in appealing this decision. I repeat I have never not paid and am not avoiding payment but I physically cannot afford this and it is going to affect the care of my daughter who lives with me.