CSA are rude and fail to understand your problems
February 3, 2013
My husband has always paid his child maintenenance or should I say his ex wife’s spending money…who I might add has just completed a 4 year open university course costing £3,500 per annum which equates to £14,000, I honestly wonder where the funds came from to pay for that, on the two occasions she went to her off site training in Brighton we looked after the three children but still had to make the weekly payments.
The eldest child was 18 in January so the ex called the CSA requesting that my husband be re-assessed. His salary has increased over the years so we have calculated that we will have to pay £1,700 per month which will cripple us so much so that wwe are moving to a smaller rented apartment in March.
The CSA are rude, callous, non understanding and a complete nightmare to deal with. My husband tried to make an attractive arrangement with his ex but she refused and thought it was better to go through the CSA, what a surprise as she knows she will get a huge increase on top of her benefits including, housing (the house is owned by her father)single parent tax credits, coucil tax (doesn’t pay) family allowance and she also works the hours below the benefit threshold, so in actual fact she has a lot more disposable income than we have. Unfortunatley she has been a nightmare of a mother,the stories the children have told us…
She has dressed them in tatty clothes and I have never ever seen a decent pair of shoes on their feet and I thought it was all about financial support for the children. Complte and utter nonsense. So we will have to move, my husband will not see his children so I suggest the ex wife and the CSA have a party at our expense.
They also want my salary information but having read your blogs I now know that would work against us and they would increase the payments.
All this has caused tremendous tension at home to the point of separation, I know it’s not the children’s fault but I completely resent them and how I feel presently I never want to see them again.
I never asked my ex husband for anything for my daughter, I went out and got a full time job to pay our way which I still do to this day and feel proud of it too.