Can we name and shame absent fathers
September 12, 2012
My ex left me before I gave birth. He came back to register his name on the birth certificate, so he is on there. My son was born in 2002 and The first payment of around £45 was paid in 2004 then 2 years later a payment of about £50. NOTHING since then! My son is 10 in November.
The CSA also tells me my claim did not start when I fist had my son, it started about 2 years later!!? Not sure why or how! They once found my ex and then they put a deductions of earnings in place, so of course he job hopped, he just left his job to avoid paying!!! They have not found him since. He ignores all letters and calls. The CSA never seem to follow up the case unless I call and check whats happening!He puts his mothers address for everything, his mother is a high up social worker (the irony), the bailiffs went to her address and she told them that she would give them no information and to let the CSA do their job!
Last year I got a letter saying my ex was now claiming benefits and I would receive a poultry amount from him. Then, before I got any payment, I got a phone call to say ignore the letter he is not claiming anymore! Before he went onto benefits the case with the CSA had got to the bailiffs going out and also a court order being put out for him. HOWEVER the sickening thing is that because he went to claim the case now has to start all over again! It took the CSA 8 years to get the case that far will it now take 8 years again!!??? I think that is totally disgusting! They now are putting trace actions out against him? Surely for him to claim benefits they must have taken contact details, national insurance number, address etc etc from him!? So how come they now have no idea where he is now!? I am gob smacked that he can get away with it, and gob smacked that in 9 years I have had less than £100 to help care for my son! I have now been told he may be living in America so I am pretty sure I have no hope of ever getting a penny now!?
Can we name and shame the people that give absent fathers a bad name? As I know there are many men fighting to see their children!
I am totally disgusted in the lack of contact I get from the CSA and the attitude of many of their staff when you finally get through to speak to one of them. I cannot understand why they are there when they are clearly not doing their jobs as I’ve had no money from my ex. If the police wanted him for something they would have found him by now! I could rant on all day about this and I am sure I have missed out a lot of information as I am getting more and more angry about it as I write this!