All ex wants is money when I want to be part of my child’s life
February 1, 2013
Just after a bit of advice and/or help please =)I’m 28, bit of a geek – but hey I look like Chad Michael Murray =)
About 7 years ago I stupidly slept with a lady who blatantly said she was on birth control (yes I know, what an idiot – being a trusting man).
Lo and behold she fell pregnant, she avoiding telling me, or indeed talking to me at all, until about month 4 of the pregnancy. I have seen the little boy twice and have had no input, not that she would let me! I have no legal responsibility, no say in any part of his life but I have a financial obligation.
I was already a single dad at that point, having lost my fiance, working full time with my daughter in nursery. I can only assume she thought this would make me a good candidate for a “live away dad”.
The lady in question was in a lot of financial trouble – which she then got out of as she could claim lots of single parent benefits!! And evidently since then she has used the CSA.
I begged her, cried at her, pleaded with her to make it stop. I was struggling so much with the amount they took from me and my daughter. I had to leave full time employment and get a part time job just to feed ourselves. (only in the UK could you work less but be better off!)
I have now recently married (well 3 years ago) and had 2 children with my wife. We try to have a good life, but the children that live with us miss out on so much. The Christmas before last we had to make all of our presents.
I feel like such a waste of a man, such an excuse of a human being. I’ve had three nervous breakdowns – the last being quite public, I ended up on channel 4 being a Superhero in 2011.
I would have loved to be a part of this childs life, but all she wanted was the money and the opportunity to get a “free loaders” life.
I am just so sick of bringing down 4 other people with this.
It just makes me so sad, when our children ask us for a bike or a holiday or even a game and we (I) have to say no we (I) can’t afford it.
If I left the country, would they drop it and leave my family alone?
If I became homeless, would they drop it and leave my family alone?
If I kill myself, would they drop it and leave my family alone?
These are the only three options I can think of, to help my family…
Any one else got any ideas?